When Carl Rogers talked about authenticity and empathy in the therapeutic relationship, he was onto something that applies far beyond therapy. His work underscores that if we, as leaders or coaches, want to help others grow, we must first bring our true selves into the relationship.
That’s why, for me, coaching leaders on the golf course is so powerful. There’s no boardroom formality, no tight agendas—just open space to be yourself. When I’m on the course with a client, authenticity shines through. The game of golf exposes raw emotions, whether it’s the frustration of a missed shot or the joy of a perfect putt. In these moments, leaders have the opportunity to reflect on their emotional responses and how they relate to the way they lead their teams. Golf is the perfect metaphor for leadership. It requires patience, focus, and, yes, empathy for yourself when things don’t go as planned. And in this relaxed setting, I’ve found that executives are more open to sharing their true challenges and aspirations. Authenticity breeds connection, and that’s where the real transformation happens.
